Marilyn French's seven million copy bestseller The Women's Room crystallized the issues that ignited the women's movement. Now the acclaimed author updates that classic with a new exploration of the truths and realities behind women's lives. In the Name of Friendship dares to investigate how the women's movement changed the lives of those it touched and what hurdles it left to cross. Set in the Berkshire Mountains of western Massachusetts, this wise novel is a group portrait of four disparate women who forge life-altering friendships despite personalities that vary as greatly as their vocations and ages. The novel weaves together a series of family crises with the friendships that help the four women refashion their lives. Maddy, the seventy-six-year-old real estate agent and matriarch of the group, struggles with the gradual death of her angry and rebellious Vietnam-marked son; fifty-year-old Alicia fights to reconnect her gay son with her newly retired husband; seventy-year-old musician Emily strives to bridge the gap with her estranged niece right at the moment her composition career starts to finally bloom; and Jenny, the thirty-year-old painter and baby of the group, questions the life she has created with her successful painter husband and tries to decide if she wants more from life. With this unusual group of multi-generational ladies, French tells a truly rare tale about four women who accidentally come into each other's lives and in the process form an enduring friendship. It is a story of supporting one another, of looking at the grim conflicts created by cultural expectations of women, and realizing you are not alone--truly a tale of continuing hope.
This novel was my first exposure to the work of Marilyn French. Yes, there is not really a semblance of plot. Yes, the dialogue at times sounds as if it is all being spoken by the same person. Yes, there are dead spots. But read with patience (and also with the sense that, in a way, this is not a "realistic" novel.) Read it for the ideas. For the descriptions (which get better, more pungent, as the novel progresses). For the way each woman parses the institution of marriage. For instance, I had never considered before what a lot of lying women sometimes have to do to set their partners at their ease. Or, as French puts it, to make them "tractable." French poses the question: Weren't our mothers or grandmothers (who may have been more prone to lying to keep harmony at home) then guilty of a form of theft? French tells the story of a woman being taught the principles of the Koran. The Prophet tells the woman "You shall not steal." The woman responds that her husband "is a stingy man. I only stole provisions from him." The Prophet replies: "That is not theft." That was not theft. That was marriage to a stingy man. (This exchange takes place on p. 199. The entire novel is 382 pages) Another passage has one of the characters, a composer named Emily, ruminating on the sex lives of great (male) composers like Tchaikowsky, Brahms, and Ravel: "So strange, Emily thought . . . that the composers who wrote the most seductive music, the music of eros, lush and rhythmic and sexy as hell, were men who never had sex . . . " BWAH HA HAAA! The passage gets better. It's on pp. 206-207.
This is a great book!
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 17 years ago
This book fulfills all my requirements for a great novel: I loved the characters, their stories helped me understand my own, I wanted to read more about them, I was never bored, the writing is fluid, French's ideas grow wonderfully out of "The Women's Room," but here are more mature, as are several of her new characters. I have run a book group for 15 years, and this is the book we will be reading for July. In addition, I teach college English and will heartily recommend this page-turner to my students. I couldn't put it down!
Written with clarity and wisdom
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 18 years ago
The main characters are relatable. The story is one of women supporting one another across generations. It's a history lesson. It's a dose of hard reality. It's a celebration of progress. It's recognition of the difficulty of being a woman and trying to find a balance between independence and dependence, work and family, passion and practicality. In the end, it's hope for the future.
Foremost feminist writer today
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 18 years ago
The author of The Women's Room proves why she is the foremost feminist writer today about how women relate and interact
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