Come As You Are: Five Years Later

Grief Doesn't Just End - It Evolves

Five years after the death of his husband, G. Scott Graham thought he had equanimity. He thought he had made peace with his grief. But when a new love entered his life, everything shifted. The grief came back-different this time, disguised as hope, desire, and fear. And with it came a whole new set of questions: Can you open your heart again after unimaginable loss? Can you love fully when you know what love can cost?

Come As You Are: Five Years Later is not a guidebook. It's not a "how-to" on healing. It's a radically honest, soul-baring exploration of what it means to live after grief - and then grieve again when love returns.

Written in a voice that feels more like a conversation than a self-help book, this third installment in the Come As You Are series blends raw reflection, poetic storytelling, and hard-won insight. It's part memoir, part diary, part meditation - and anchored by a practical, no-nonsense appendix for those navigating the messy reality of love after loss.

Inside, you'll find: A deeply personal narrative of falling in love again - and falling apart in the processInsights into how grief reappears not just through loss, but through connectionReflections on Vipassanā meditation, equanimity, and the near enemy of indifferenceExercises and tools grounded in Buddhist practice - but accessible to anyone in griefA powerful reminder that healing isn't linear, and presence is always a choice
If you've ever loved deeply and lost, if you're finding your way back to intimacy after heartbreak, or if you're navigating new connection while still carrying old grief - this book is for you.

Because grief doesn't follow a timeline.
Love doesn't erase loss.
And the heart, if you're willing, keeps breaking open.